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No

I do not accept your abuse. No, I do not deserve it.

I do not buy your backhanded apologies, non-apologies, really. No, I’m smart enough to know the difference between the crap you are trying to dish out and a real apology.

I will never accept future exploitation by you. The only reason you exploited me at all is because you deliberately deceived me in order to get what you wanted. No, I do not believe that me giving you the benefit of the doubt makes me a bad person, but I do believe your choice to abuse me reveals a great deal more about you.

I accept that this is what you are. I have since been witness of your abuse towards others as well. No, I do not believe you have changed.

I accept that I cannot love you into being a good person. No, to attempt to do so is neither healthy nor sane.

I accept that I cannot expect you to be decent, even if I choose to model good behavior myself. You already know better, you just choose worse. No, to teach you better was your parents’ job.

I accept that you can no longer be a part of my life. No, I absolutely do deserve better.

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11 comments on “No

  1. Excellent post! And very powerful!!

  2. Reblogged this on My journey of healing from psychological abuse and commented:
    For those struggling with enforcing old or even new boundaries, this post by JerkBusters is a MUST read! It’s everything that we all need to believe deep down, and say to others who aren’t willing to respect us or our boundaries.

  3. Reblogged this on Ladywithatruck's Blog and commented:
    A must read by anyone trying to heal after a relationship with a narcissist. When in doubt reread, reread, and reread it again

  4. All true. Thanks for pulling it together so succinctly. The title is excellent as well.
    Denmother

  5. So very well said…!!!! Yes we deserve better…..but we had to go to hell first , to find that out……..thank you for posting.

  6. Brilliantly clear and to the point. No room for fauxpologies, second chances, nothing. A CLEAR line in the sand. Excellent post!

  7. I need to print this and stick it on my wall.

  8. Love it! No No and triple No. No more bullshit. No more lies. No more global “I’m sorry’s” to cover egregious verbal attacks. Hell freakin’ NO. Great post.

  9. BIG FAT KUDOS

  10. One of my favorite blogs thus far! Perfectly said!

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